The final session in this series looks at the idea of the 'exiled part'. This will elp you to understand why cerrtain things have always seemed very difficult or impossible for you. Whilst others seem to find it easy to do things like, say no, or get angry, or, ask for what you want. You may have really wondered why, for you, it was an impossible task. It was probably because you 'exiled' this part of you and trained your brain never to let it show up again! The good news is that you can retrain your brain to do just that as long as you are wiling to accept that this is areal part of you too.
In this session we look at the idea of polarised parts. Thiese parts are constructed to 'balance out' your extreme parts. They are often critical and judgemental. we also look at the 'observer position' which is essential if you are going to ensure that you make progress relating to your parts. The next and final session will be on 'exiled parts' which are parts you have tried to get rid of!
In this session we look at how to work with your older parts. Focussing on the 'teenager' as our subject we look at the reason why our parts are different ages as well as the age appropriate method of gaining the clients trust.
This is the first in a highly requested series on self management, by which we mean of course managing our 'core' or 'true' selves. In this first session we will cover the basics and set out our terms, although this session will assume that you have some knowledge of the approach. If this is the first time you have looked at these ideas please listen to some of the earlier stuff first!
The future sessions will cover working with younger parts, working with older parts, working with polarised parts and finally, working with exiled parts. If you have any questions or requests for further sessions, please leave a comment or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Here we have part three in this series on the family car. We are now going to look at getting to work with the parts and taking the observer position. In this episode I offer you some do's and don'ts around parts work and why it is so effective.
Here is the second part of the Family Car. It follows on by helping you to understand the method and why it is so effective. This method will help you to be more harmonious in yourself rather than conflicted.
Here is a link to the Blog I mention about the trap of success and failure.
Here is the first of a two part message on one of the most important methods I use. I call it the Family car. It will help you make a start on creating inner harmony as oppose to inner conflict when trying to recover from addiction or dependence. The second half of this message will go more into the method itself. This first part makes sure that you have everything you need for the way you are going to practice this important method.
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We all know about the idea of an MOT right? This is when our cars need to be checked for road worthiness! I use this idea for what I call the Moment Of Temptation. This method will help you deal with one of the most difficult moments in a dependent or addicted persons life. It is the moment when the voice in your head says that it sounds like a good idea to return to old habits and substances.
This method will offer practical steps to manage yourself in these moments. As well as helping you understand what is happeneing in your brain during these moments and how they are formed.
Here is another in the series on Method. It covers one of the fundamental growth methods which I call 'say AAA' or awareness acceptance and action. If you are in early recovery and want a refreshing change from traditional approaches to your difficulty, try these methods and the systemic approach.