Alternative To Rehab

Building Recovery - Stage Two Foundation - Session Three - Are all your rooms the right size

In this third session of the foundation stage we are reminded that we are still in the early stages of development. Things can still be changed at this stage in the size and design of the rooms etc. Spend some time noe thinking about the future you are commiting to in terms of the relative sizes of the rooms. Are you making some rooms too big whilst others are too small?

What are your commitments to others and will you be happy with the future this produces? Only time will tell but we must do our best to plan and buld well. Much easier to make changes at this stage than later.

Building Recovery - Stage Two Foundation - Session Two - Are all your rooms foundations secure

In this second session we look at the idea of security and stability not in a general sense but, now that we have our rooms planned, in the particular context of each room in the house. It is at this stage that you can more readily discern where the real problems may lie ahead. Is it in your relationship? Is it in your family? Is it in your interests and friendships?

Only you will know this and so do not even think about skipping this vital step. Spend time considering each room in turn and if they are not secure, do not feel bad. You have just learned some vital information! Just do not be tempted to buld on top of such a foundation. Wait until it is secure before continuing.

Building Recovery - Stage Two Foundation - Session One - What materials will you use?

Here is the first session in the foundation section of the course. I am always amazed at the richness of this metaphor of a building! And in the question for this session it delivers once again! In our metaphor the materials are the things we buld with. These will include the standard building materials such as honesty and humility but there will be individual comodoties that apply to you particularly. Think of this question and spend some time thinking about what materials you will need and your commitment towards using them.

Do not skimp on the quality of materials you are needing to employ. These things will come back to haunt you when you see that quality of home you have built for yourself if you think like so many others that you can get away with inferior quality and commitment.

Remeber, you are building for the future!

Building Recovery - Stage two Foundation - Introduction

This session introduces the Second stage of the course which is the Foundation. Nothing is so important as the foundation of a building! It is the thing upon which everything else rests and is the thing on which the whole building relies. It does not matter how well designed or well constructed the rest of the house is if the foundation is not planned and constructed correctly the whole thing is destined for disaster!

There are four sessions in this stage and all are crucial to your recovery. One of the biggest mistakes I see is that people often mistake the foundation for recovery itself! Acutally it is effectively abstinence. And abstinence is not recovery! As always, please be encouraged to listen to all theses sessions carefully and allow all the ideas to sink in and be applied to your individual situation.

And don't forget to pass this on to anyone who may need it!

Dave 

Building Recovery - Stage One Planning - Session Five - What rooms do you want in your recovery home?

In the final session of this first stage we are asked to consider the following planning question. Which rooms do you want in your recovery building? Again these are critical questions for our growth and development. We cannot expect to build something worth while, solid and stable unless we know what it will look like when it is finished. What is important to us in our recovered self? What do we want to spend our time doing? How do we want to allocate that time? 

Building Recovery - Stage One Planning - Session Four - Are you willing to pay the price?

Session four in the planning stage considers the idea that things cost! Often addicts talk about their addiction as if it has brought them nothing but pain and hardship, but the truth is that addicts make choices and when we make different choices we have to pay the price of those choices. Consequences are things we cannot escape and so we must consider the cost of recovery!

Building Recovery - Stage One Planning - Session Three - Is this building your design?

The third in the planning section of the Bulding Recovery course, this session asks the critical question when planning your recovery - is it your design? You could be amazed at how many people rush into their recovery. They often end up building someone elses idea of recovery! This often leads to a disaster, you can easily see why.

Building Recovery - Stage One Planning - Session Two - Is this the right place to build?

Here is the second session in the planning section. This session invites you to consider the questions around location and community, friends and neighbours. It can make all the difference between growth and stuckness in your recovery!

Building Recovery - Foundation

Here is another supplemental session for the foundation section of the course. Agan it is covered in more detail as part of the course but there are some useful ideas here to increase your understanding of what is needed to build a good foundation.

Building Recovery - Planning

Here is the second of three supplemental sessions to the foundation section. Planning is covered in more detail as a section on it's own but there are siome thoughts here that you will find useful for your planning.